We all know there are many fundamental similarities between human brain and the way our computer works, especially people like us who live on computers can relate them better.
When we born GOD blessed us with basic firmware, with ability to learn and improve itself over the period of time. As we grow up and learn we create lot of memories out of which some we want to cherish for life time and like to forget some of them however there is no delete button which keeps deleting our unpleasant or unwanted memories to keep us happy and healthy.
Unpleasant memories usually created when things will not go as per our expectation or when we experience hurt in close relations. These left over feeling have strong potential to retain them self in future as well, The tricky thing is that, most of us don’t realize that we are carrying emotional baggage .If we do not identified baggage and its cure it will keep popping up and consume us.
In today’s world it’s hard to find someone without any emotional baggage. we do not have mechanism to remove those memories but we can surely get rid of damages that emotional baggage can does to us. Everyone is having their own way to deal with their emotional baggage and everyone takes their own time to come out of it. however following methods are very effectively useful to drop emotional baggage.
Meditation: First thing first, usually we lose our focus and really not able to concentrate on our goals and priorities because of heavy emotional baggage. in order to get rid of this first thing we have to control our thought which helps to popup unpleasant memories .Meditation is one of the best way to control thought. It can be started with simple n meditation exercise by thinking about the person/thing /place/event which makes us happy and hold that pleasant though as long as we can, once we starts practicing meditation it will help to keep away unpleasant memories for longer and longer time.
Thought Replacement: As says goes devil is in the details, more we curse devil , more stronger it becomes ,let me explain it more we thought of negative memories it will become more embossed and fresh in our mind , if we want to get rid of it we have to do something else rather than thing about it again and again and expecting one fine day this will go off. I remember Mother T. always said that I she will not joint any rally against WAR but she will surely like to join rally for peace. Now it’s time to replace the thought, we have to think about something where that person/place/event is not associate directly or indirectly we have to simply think in opposite direction not in oppose of it like mother T. taught us.
Accept the Reality: Most of the people spend lot of time in thinking that they could have done lot of things, if this wasn’t happened to them. Inner conscious denies to accept “How something can end up in this way” and their mind keep on repeating same tape again and gain .First we have to accept the reality and answer you self that “it has already happened & whatever happened is happened for good” now I have to collect my good pieces of memories and move forward in life.
Let it go: “Thinking about”thousand things that we could have done if this wasn’t happened “ will create new memories and tied up with unpleasant memories by doing this we are unknowingly creating new memories around unpleasant memories and more unpleasant memories means more emotional baggage and it will keep on growing until we say “Let it Go” to our self and stop thinking about things that we cannot do with this event/person/place
Keep Yourself Busy: This is the most popular way and most of us have experience its effectiveness. This is slow but effective way of get rid of emotional baggage this will keep you away from unpleasant memories and give you time and option to create new memories that you can cherish for long-time.
Learn New Things: This is an extension of above point however it is having strong potential to keep you away from unpleasant memories, Pick a new thing which you wish to do/learn but didn’t get time to pursue it. Learning new music instrument would be one of the effective option considering two reason, first music itself is having healing power, second learning new instrument will create more interest and keep you diverted from unpleasant memories.
Changing Tendency: If people can easily hurt you ,you have tendency to getting hurt ,and eventually it will be converted in emotional baggage .in order to prevent from getting new baggage you need to change yourself and start dealing with this situations and have to promise yourself that you will not get heart that easily ,at least not for the same reason again and again.
Share With Friends: Talking about your emotional baggage to your close ones makes you feel better and lighter however always it is not possible to talk about everything, in this case you can go to place where you can shout louder or talk to yourself this looks weird but really make you feel better and lighter whenever you feel emotional choke.
Shed Tears: This is one of the ways to relief the emotional choke. It is not sign of weakness but studies proved that it is natural way to clear the emotional choke; this will give instant relief from stress as well.
Less Expectation: Most of the time we got heart because of expectation set in relationship and it didn’t come out accordingly. Long back I been told by one wise person that “I don’t expect anything from others and expect the same from them” I guess this is big expectation however moral of the story remain the same expecting less is the key to prevent yourself from getting hurt emotionally .
By : Dharmesh Patel