Many time we come across this word ego..What is this ego? is it a psychological subject ? is it a product of childhood conditions ? is it a self formed principle of the human personality ? i am sure we all have our own definition for it . I believe there is very thin line between pride , ego and self respect , unfortunately that is not visible to others and some time you may end up in getting the complement “egoistic” ,you really deserve or not that is a different story.
We all blessed with many emotions, love is most powerful of them .there is nothing wrong in loving yourself , everyone does that and it is very much fair to handle you self with respect the way you give to others .As long as this balance is maintained its fine and the moment you start get obsessive with self respect by ignoring others you will start becoming victim of your ego. Lodrd Krishna told Parth in GITA that ego & arrogance belong to heritage of demon. Hence its brings negativity, Negativity is the subject of debate though.
In Buddhism there is very famous quote given by Buddha himself “we are all that our minds create” this sentence is very much true we spend entire life to understand and control our mind and its desire and only few of us able to get success
There are many to way to stay away from ego few of them are.
Don’t discuss your good activities : There is world out there who is always ready to take you otherwise so if you want to share your good deeds think twice and judiciously before sharing to others people may see that you are showing them how you are good at many things. Always believe that good deeds are its best if it is done in anonymity so do it and forget it.
Have to pay the price : we have to pay price for every gains ,slashing ego( i called as enlightenment )also come with the price ,you have to sacrifices your superficial image that mind had created for world and have to be yourself without any mask.
Control your desire : In Buddhism they believe that desire is the cause of “Dukkha” slashing desire will help to reduce the ego .desire work as mental fuel for ego , you have to free/control you self to full fill desire which fuels your ego.
Compare yourself with you : ego grows over the period of time for number of reasons hence always compare yourself in different point in time and if you think there are changes in your behaviour or the way to treat the same people differently and more arrogantly its right time to work on yourself rather pointing to others.
Don’t lie or Hide: whole truth is nothing but the truth. sometimes people tell lie to impress other or make them happy however one fine day bitter truth definitely will come out.try to avoid telling lie just to impress someone.
Stay Away from who always praise you : Try to stay away from the people who always praise you i called them as "ego friendly" people and keep you always on the cloud number nine .these people fuel your ego and eventually you will be habituated to listen good thing which satisfies ego.
Don't be too beezee : people thinking being busy is being important and start comparing them self with others, this is the direct way of giving fuel to ego by joining rat race of becoming important. Being too busy is often an escapist form of cowardice. It is the fear and unwillingness to tackle the things that really matter. Like your deteriorating relationships. Or your own desperation and regular fits of depression.
these are the few of the points that can help us to understand few aspect of ego and help to get rid of it. I believe emptiness is the most powerful state to get rid of ego though it is difficult for mind filled with doubt, questions and grievances .gaining emptiness is as good as gaining enlightenment actually it is not a gain it is the loss of everything even wisdom and truth disappear when only silence and emptiness remains...this what all most all the religions believe
By : Dharmesh